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|Intimidation in ringing|
What I am talking about is "Intimidation", making folk feel timid, belittling.
In the Statement from YMSCR*: 17th December 2016.
I feel the YMSCR Statement is clearly wrong.
The YACR* meeting
Intimidation is NOT restricted to the York ringers.
Some of the nicest people can say the most intimidating things.
|Me a victim||
I have felt intimidation in most of my ringing career, I could say I am used to it.
There is no complaint mechanism in the ringing community, perhaps I am to blame for
not standing up and saying that I do not find those remarks acceptable.
Ringers have commented that to advance their ringing skills they need to put up with
the intimidation and bullying.
I wonder how many folk have dropped out of ringing due to intimidation.
Now some people respond to intimidation, find it motivating.
There can be a progression from "banter" to intimidation, to bullying.
One aspect of "Intimidation" is what I call "peacocking", public loud pronouncements not only belittling the receiver but enhancing the perpetrator's public standing, often accompanied by reinforcing laughter from those around.
Here other people affiliated to the original bully, jumping on the bandwagon.
These people feel they have the right to add their own "banter" or bullying remarks.
They gain the admiration of their peers and so the feel they are doing the right thing.
This is where it becomes really hurtful, one can cope with the original bully, perhaps knowing the performance ideals of the original bully, but then personal "banter" from others in the group can become overwhelming.
Sometimes a conductor may chose to intimidate one ringer, intending to correct a problem with another ringer who he feels cannot take criticism
One example I have heard told
While ringing Stedman, the conductor shouts "George you are dodging 5/6 with the 4th", then repeats louder, then louder and really furiously
George was actually ringing correctly, but the ringer of the 4th was completely off
Now I think that there has to be a better way, even if George knew what it was all about, the rest of the band heard George being abused.
So, listen out in your tower.
Do you hear unacceptable interactions?
Is it time to reject intimidation from ringing?
Finally where is “encouragement” in all this, a little “well done”, “great effort” or a “thank you”.
YMSCR = York Minster Society of Change Ringers
YACR = Yorkshire Association of Change Ringers